Read This if You Believe in the Importance of Being Realistic
It’s time to flip the paradigm.
We tend to value being realistic and yet for many of us, this only applies to positive thinking. We readily ponder worst-case scenarios, draft elaborate backup plans, and run through step-by-step what we would do if things went miserably wrong.
We ruin happy moments by worrying about when and how they will end. We doubt we have what it takes to reach our dreams and ruminate on all of the reasons we’ll never be good enough in place of looking for the reasons we already are.
We are so quick to burst our bubbles — to tell ourselves we shouldn’t get our hopes up because what goes up must come down — and in the name of being realistic, we often end up exaggerating the bad and erasing the good from our lives.
In psychology, overgeneralization describes a cognitive distortion that leads us to make sweeping and often negative conclusions about our lives and ourselves based on limited experience. For example, maybe you apply for a job and you never hear back, leading you to think you are unemployable and will never land work.
Maybe you have a falling out with a friend and then assume no one likes you, or you disagree with someone on one thing and conclude you must have no common ground.
